Q&A: Normal and Modest in the Summer

Remember when I was all excited to post picture of work appropriate clothing on the blog because I'm working full time now? And remember how I haven't done it at all? It's not because I don't love you. It's just because, it's sort of awkward to say, "Hey, student, can you take a picture of my outfit?" So I haven't figured out a system yet. Maybe soon. I'm working on it.

In the meantime, Q&A is back! Today's question is anonymous, but I think relevant to all of us modest dressers out there. Here we go:

Question:
In the winter, I find it's fairly easy to dress modestly and still blend in-- long sleeves, lots of layers, boots, and tights are the norm. However, in the summer, I sometimes find it's hard to both maintain my standards of modesty, look normal, and not melt to death. Any tips? -- Anonymous

Answer:
Ah yes. There is nothing that makes someone feel quite as conspicuous as wearing sleeves past the elbows when it's 90 degrees and humid outside. I have certainly been there, and it is not always easy. While there's no fail-safe way to deal with this challenge, here are some tips.

Luckily, fashion has been on the modest girls' side of late. The maxi skirt trend has been here for the last couple of years, and it looks like it's here to stay, at least for now. The good thing about maxi skirts is that they are super comfortable. The bad news is that most of them are too casual for any work environment that isn't super informal. However, they're great for the weekend or a fun evening out. You can find good options here, here and here.

It's true, most people where longer skirts with sleeveless tops in the summer. However, popover shirts are having a fashion moment, and they usually have 3/4 sleeves, which works out great for people who like longer sleeves! Additionally, they tend to be super lightweight, which makes them great for summer. Sometimes a looser shirt with more coverage is cooler than a tighter short sleeved or sleeveless shirt, so don't be afraid of the sleeves. Look for things in cotton or other light fabrics that breathe easily, like this, this or this.

Remember that a lot of people, even those who generally wear pants or shorts, choose to wear skirts in the summer. They're often lighter and airier than pants, even when they have a little more length. Again, look for lightweight fabrics. The GAP is currently selling a number of midi skirts right now in a light cotton which would likely be airy even on the hottest of days. They look super cute with flats and even a fedora, for those of you who are so inclined, to give you a nice vintage-y look.

Nobody wants to wear sweaters in the summer, so sleeveless dresses can seem unappealing if you don't want to wear a shirt underneath (which is certainly a distinctive look.) Try out wrap-style dresses, which might require a cami, but still blend nicely and can be good for hotter weather. Also check out places like Nordstrom, where you can search by sleeve length; Boden, where they have many options with sleeves; or Eshakti, where you can customize to add sleeves.

In terms of skirt length. You know that I am the world's biggest proponent of flats. Not only do I never wear heels during the week, I usually don't even wear them on Shabbat. However, there is something to be said for a good pair of wedges in order to balance out a longer skirt and make it look less conspicuous. Even a whiny heel wearer like me can find a pair of wedges that are totally bearable. Just make sure you choose a good brand. I suggest something like Aerosoles, Born, or Dr. Scholls.

If you cover your hair, I don't have a huge amount to say, as a non-hair coverer. However, fedoras are everywhere these days (thank you hipsters), and headscarves/ thick headbands also seem to be having a moment. So at least outside, you will find many like you.

Finally, remember that people are not looking at you that closely. So in terms of looking normal, people are not paying nearly as much attention to what you're wearing as you think. This is not to say that people won't notice your total fabulousness, but if you feel like you look really different from everyone else, it is unlikely that they really notice. Just wear what's comfortable for you and you'll look great!

How do you dress for modesty in the heat?